4.5% of the men in the United States is an incredibly high number – that translates into over six million men.
If you added up every US citizen who was officially unemployed or looking for work in 2001, that would be less than the total number of rapists.
If you added up every US citizen who is Jewish, that would still be less than the total number of rapists.
If you added up every teenage boy who had any sort of job – an afterschool job, a summer job, working full-time after dropping out, including all of those – you’d still have over a million fewer people then the total number of rapists.
There are twice as many rapists in the USA as there are single mothers.
For every drunk driver who is in a fatal accident this year, there are over 500 rapists.
If you take every doctor and nurse in the United States; and you added them to every librarian, every cashier, every cop, every postal clerk, and every bank teller in the whole country; you still wouldn’t have as many people as the number of rapists in the United States.
(Think of that a second – think of how often, in your daily life, you’ve seen cops and cashiers and all those other folks. Odds are, you’ve run into rapists more often than that).
To paraphrase Tim Wise: In short, “only” 4.5% of the male population is a lot of people, so that even by the most optimistic assessment of how many men are rapists, there are literally millions out there who not only would but have raped a woman. When combined with those who are less vicious – those who haven’t raped, but would be willing to in the right circumstances, and those who would make excuses for why other men rape, it becomes clear just how real a widespread a problem rape and rape-supportive attitudes are among men today.
So, when someone says “not all men are rapists!”, they’re absolutely correct, but the number is high enough that it’s safer to assume all men are potential rapists until proven otherwise.
Millions of rapists. Millions.
Damaging racist and sexist stereotypes have been based on far fewer people doing far less damaging things (e.g. black people love watermelon, women are overly emotional, Asian people are smart, etc.), so why is there such an outcry over people being wary of men?
Not all men are rapists. Not all rapists are men. I’ve never seen anyone disagree with those two statements.
It is, however, perfectly acceptable if you are cautious around men in order to protect yourself from the possibility of sexual assault.
People will try to shame you for being wary, but then will shame you if you weren’t careful enough. You can’t win in this society, so you might as well go with the option that keeps you safest.(via callingoutbigotry)